THE 8 MILE MOVIE AND THE BULLY CONNECTION...
by Normandy D. Piccolo
A few weeks ago I channel surfed upon the movie, “8 Mile” starring Eminem, Kim Basinger, Mekhi Phifer and Brittany Murphy, airing on MTV. I had not seen “8 Mile” since its release back in 2002. My timing could not have been better. Eminem’s character, B-Rabbit and his rival, Papa Doc, were about to battle for the title of best rapper in Detroit.
Now I want you, for just a moment, to forget this is a movie. Forget these two Actor/Rappers are playing characters. And forget that the rap was pre-written, based on scripted events in the movie. What made this scene in “8 Mile” stand out was the fact that Eminem/B-Rabbit, took the power away from Papa Doc.
The MC flipped a coin and Papa Doc had the option to go first or pass. He passed. See, Papa Doc thought he was slick by letting B-Rabbit take the mic first. Papa Doc’s cocky, bully attitude allowed him to falsely believe he was going to win simply by ragging on B-Rabbit using typical bully put-downs.
Take a moment and read Eminem/B-Rabbit’s lyrics to the rap off and you will see what I mean when I say, “Eminem/B-Rabbit took the power back.”
*B-RABBIT'S FREESTYLE BATTLE FROM THE MOVIE, 8 MILE*
Now while he stands tough
Notice that this man did not have his hands up
This free world got you gassed up
Now who's afraid of the big bad wolf
1, 2, 3 and to the 4
1 pac , 2 pac, 3 pac, 4
4 pac, 3 pac, 2 pac, 1
You're pac, he's pac, no pacs, none
This guy ain't no ****** MC,
I know everything he's got to say against me,
I am white, I am a ******* bum, I do live in a trailer with my mom,
My boy Future is an Uncle Tom.
I do got a dumb friend named Cheddar Bob who shoots
himself in the leg with his own gun,
I did get jumped by all 6 of you chumps
And Wink did **** my girl,
I'm still standing here screaming "**** THE FREE WORLD!"
Don't ever try to judge me dude
You don't know what the **** I've been through
But I know something about you
You went to Cranbrook, that's a private school
What's the matter dawg? You embarrassed?
This guy's a gangster? his real name's Clarence
And Clarence lives at home with both parents
And Clarence's parents have a real good marriage
This guy don't wanna battle, He's shook
'Cause there no such things as half-way crooks
He's scared to death
He's scared to look in his *****yearbook, *** Cranbrook
**** the beat, I go acapella
**** a papa doc, **** a clock, **** a trailer,**** everybody
**** y'all if you doubt me
I'm a piece of **** white trash, I say it proudly
And **** this battle, I don't wanna win, I'm outty,
Here, tell these people something they don't know about me.
With that last line, B-Rabbit tossed the microphone at Papa Doc, who was left speechless. Why? Because B-Rabbit took the power back. He exposed Papa Doc for the fraud that he actually was. Papa Doc wasn’t some super bad rapper/thug after all. He was a phony. A fraud. A nobody.
Once the power was taken away, Papa Doc had nothing. He stood on the stage speechless. He could no longer hurt B-Rabbit. B-Rabbit owned who he was....the good, the bad, and the ugly. He acknowledged all of the things that Papa Doc found fault with and by doing so, stripped Papa Doc of the power to cause him further pain. B-Rabbit schooled Papa Doc real good.
Now I’m not telling you to go ask the DJ to, “Spin that ****”, so you can engage in some sort of rap-off against your bully. Unless you have some mad rap skills, it’s best you not go there. I am also not telling you to dig up dirt on your bully either. Do that and you will become a bully if you aren’t careful. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
“Well what can I do then?”, You ask.
Easy. You can realize your bully has issues...probably bigger than you will ever know. What makes a bully appear stronger and more superior than their victim is that a bully is better at hiding said issues. Hence why they are the bully and not the bullied.
Bullies deflect their issues onto their victims. A bully has deep rooted issues that require professional help in order to change. Bullies are often filled with misplaced anger. They are jealous. They are envious. And so much more. Bullies are good at masking their issues by pointing out what they deem to be issues with their victims.
While a bully knows WHAT they do to you, they do not know WHY they do it to you.
Whatever a bully’s problem with you might be, keep in mind it is THEIR PROBLEM. Not yours. Don’t ever feel like you have to pick up their mantle of hate and self-loathing and despair and get to the point where you turn on yourself and begin to believe all of that vile vomit spewed forth by your bully. Those are their words and thoughts of you. Not your own words and thoughts of yourself. And if they are...you need to change your stinkin’ thinkin’ right now. A bully is not in charge of you. You are in charge of you. Please remember that - always.
Accept that you are wonderfully, skillfully and beautifully made. You are unique. There is no one else out there like you. You do not need to change something about yourself that a bully finds to be a fault . The truth is, the bully needs to change.
Bullies are nothing more than phonies who front. They are hurting inside and in order to make them feel better about themselves, they have to hurt you. Keep that in mind the next time a bully strikes out and instead of shedding tears of pain for what they say or do, shed tears of sorrow for the bully. They are sad. They are pathetic. And they are the one who is weak....not you.
Never Let A Bully Win. Fight Back. Live.